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your dreams will be reduced down to breathing, and you will be grateful
The thing about not-being-a-person is:
They will say those people and the price of being a person is to nod and agree that yes, those people aren’t people at all.
They will have no idea who they are talking to.
You yourself will start to forget, too.
They will say a million small things that sow the seeds for violence done against you, and you will smile and let them.
You will do math, constantly.
How much do I want to be a person today? How much do I want this project to succeed? How much honesty can I afford? How much dishonesty will kill me? What is the cost of coming out? Is there a way to delay, soften, transmute? How long can I survive as half a person?
Ever since the world ended ... I don't go out as much.
People that I once befriended, just don't bother to stay in touch.
Things that used to seem so splendid, don't really matter today.
It's just as well the world ended -- it wasn't working anyway.
Your dreams will be reduced down to breathing.
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Julia Bascom on 03/5/12 | 2 Comments | Read More
Seeking Familiar Comforts
My teenage daughter, who likes to plan ahead, has decided to pick out my next new car. She insists that a GMC Terrain would be just right for me because it has plenty of space like an SUV, but it ge...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 06/30/10 | No Comments | Read More
Telling Ourselves New Stories
Tattoos, like other forms of art within our society, are a way of making connections with others and statements about personal identity. When gang members go straight, they often have one or more ...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 06/23/10 | No Comments | Read More
Monks, Mystics, and Mindfulness
Before the modern era, an autistic child born into a family of peasants would have been put to work on the farm, where there was no need to develop fluent speech or to understand complex patterns of s...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 06/16/10 | 2 Comments | Read More
Knowing the Mind of God
Theory of mind, which is a social reasoning process that involves drawing conclusions about the thoughts underlying others' acts, includes the tendency of many people to attribute intent and purpose t...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 06/9/10 | 7 Comments | Read More
More Doing, Less Empathizing
Today's college students scored 40 percent lower on a measure of empathy than students a generation ago, according to a review study that was presented last week at the annual meeting of the Associat...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 06/2/10 | 1 Comment | Read More
Staring Diversity in the Eye
The French Parliament has passed a resolution condemning the wearing of veils, as reported by feminist blogger Aimee Sea in an article pointing out the tremendous irony in the idea that women must be ...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 05/26/10 | 2 Comments | Read More
The Post-Consumer Workforce
As the free sharing of information and creative endeavors on the Internet moves the economy away from a focus on consumerism, we can expect that the careers of the future will differ in many ways from...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 05/19/10 | 1 Comment | Read More
The Post-Consumer Age
As economist Tyler Cowen discusses in his book Create Your Own Economy, today's digital media are causing society to develop in what he characterizes as a more autistic direction. Instead of passive...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 05/17/10 | No Comments | Read More
Prosperity
On top of my bookshelf I keep a Prosperity Tree, which is by far the most ridiculous gimmicky item I own. It's about the same height and width as my open hand and has pale blue silk flowers, a white...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 05/12/10 | No Comments | Read More
Strong Women and Social Change
Theory of mind, as Andrew Lehman explains, can be understood as a modern cognitive style that contrasts with the tendency of ancient matrifocal societies—and autistics—to engage in primary process...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 05/6/10 | No Comments | Read More
The Benefit of the Doubt
Many books and articles have been published on the topic of what makes a marriage or relationship succeed. At the top of my list I'd put willingness to give the other person the benefit of the doubt...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 04/28/10 | No Comments | Read More
Abortion, Violence Against Women, and Autism
Modern society is changing in many ways that increase the autistic population. Andrew Lehman touched on one of them in a November post discussing the practices of sex-selective abortion and fema...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 04/21/10 | 3 Comments | Read More
The Perils of Normalization
How far would you be willing to go for a more attractive and socially pleasing look? Would you choose to sacrifice part of your cognitive functioning, leaving your brain less able to process verba...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 03/1/10 | No Comments | Read More
The Tao of the Alarm Clock
Before the housing bubble burst, my husband and I were among those who built a house in an expensive subdivision, on the theory that it was just as good an investment as the stock market and—yay!—...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 01/11/10 | No Comments | Read More
The Path Home
As a child, I loved to wander through quiet woods and to pick wildflowers in meadows, following paths that I pretended would lead me into fairy tale adventures in a long-ago world. I imagined myse...[Read More]
Gwen McKay on 12/28/09 | No Comments | Read More
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